Miji's goblet-theory

I have a good friend named Miji. We meet pretty often and discuss a lot of things, but one topic always comes up: Men and women and how different we tend to be when it comes to handling emotions.
We don't mean that in a bad way, though. We are actually pro inequality regarding emotions. Men and women are different, just face it. Men and women will, in general, disagree pretty often about the ingredients of a good relationship. Women will, again in general, always crave more.
Both Miji and I have come to terms with this. That fact alone doesn't bother us. We want gender equality but we want it in politics, salaries and those kinds of things. Emotional inequality is nothing wrong, though!

Still, I hurt when I get that familiar feeling of being a woman who just doesn't get enough love from her man. I cry and I blame the guy, just like us girls tend to do from time to time. I mope and mumble to my girlfriends, telling them "I pour my love over him, but he never gives me that much back. It's unfair."

Or is it?
Again: Inequality. What if we are gender based different? Nothing we really have chosen, but something that we just simply... are?
Here comes Miji's brilliant metaphor. She said:

"It's like men and women's goblets of emotions are in different sizes from early on. A woman's goblet is always double the size of man's goblet. Therefore, men get satisfied with their relationship faster than women. Their goblet gets full with emotions twice as fast.
This is why women are the ones complaining most of the time about not feeling satisfied and full. This is why women surround themselves with more friends and have more deep, meaningful talks with both family and friends: This way their goblet, too, gets filled to the brim.
In a relationship, many men probably pour all they have from their goblets into their partner's goblet, but however hard they try, the recieving goblet is bigger, and the liquid runs dry half way to the top - And the woman feels as though the man hasn't tried his hardest to make her happy."

I loved Miji's way of thinking, and I told her:

"Hey, it's the other way around too, then! Many women who showers their men with unconditional love end up with the man breaking up because he says she was smothering him. That's when the girl, with her huge emotional goblet, pours that liquid over in a much smaller goblet, the man's. It spills over, it gets too much. The women still has more to give, but the man's goblet has no more room for it."

However we spun the goblet-theory, it all made sense regarding the patterns of most men and women in a relationship.

Women should stop complaining about men's lack of commitment.
Men should try to understand the size of the goblet of emotions that women carry.
This way, understanding can possibly be better reached and love can actually for real begin.

Thank you, Miji, you are such a wonderful person.
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